A Not So Complex Thought About Sexuality – Part 4
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But then again what will happen
to the people who have done one or couple of mistakes in their life? And what
if they have done it for numerous times with numerous people? Will they become
so much of untouchable? What is they confess? What it they accept it? Will
their truth should be left unappreciated? Should they be left deprived of love?
Suppose you have accepted
someone. After sometimes you get a family. Kids and more. What if their
previous partner re-appears in their life and again tries to make union with
them? They have already done it so doing one more time will do no harm, isn’t
it? What if they appear in YOUR life and makes fun of you because you are using
their USED product? What it will make of your self-esteem? Suppose people get
to know about this, they will make fun of yours, and given the high phatic
society of India, they will laugh on your face. What you will do about it? You
will have no way but to suicide or live with shame. In this precise moment I would follow the Japanese tradition of Honour.
Okk, if we consider that they didn’t
loved them and just had pleasure with them. It proved that they are slut/stud.
And if they had feelings for them and they had made love then this feeling of
love can’t be abolished. Love is an energy which can’t be finished. At first
their consciousness and morality will keep them to commit any mistake but if
their love was so passionate it will soon fade away and then you will either
end up having a liar’s family, hypocrite partner or a torn apart family. Where
everyone is clueless about what’s going on with one another.
Out of frustration either you
will do something wrong or start having your own affair with someone else for
the need of love care and obviously sex. Because you are not going to touch
someone else’s branded meat. Are you? Then tell me my friend, what will happen
to your family if you have produced kids? What will happen to their life?
Sending them to boarding school will only make them feel unloved and a soul
like that will never learn to love anyone and a domino effect will start where
they will not purely love anyone and they will never be loyal to anyone.
You can’t measure loyalty. You
can’t just make you’re your faith, well if otherwise you didn’t have chosen to
stay blind dumb and mum to the incidents around you and chose to follow blindly
no matter whom or what. Following something blindly will not only make you look
like a fool but also will destroy you like Dhritarashtra.
From my perspective you should
live with someone to you are first and foremost priority, more than their own self.
Be that person is virgin or non-virgin, had sex for love or pleasure. It’s up
to your consciousness my friend. But, if that person makes you feel like THE
King/Queen, go for him/her. If they excel in all your tests of loyalty then go
for them. Test them. Grind them. Make them bleed and cry but if every drop of
their blood and tear says that it loved you, go for them. Never take anything
blindly, grow up your faith and then have a full trust or like I do is to trust
100% like baby but keep an eye on them and on their slightest of mistake cut
their score mercilessly.
Above all try to respect
yourself. A person who knows to respect their self is respected by all and
knows to give respect to all. Never take yourself for granted. If you have love
written in your luck you will get it in your life no matter from where. Losing
a person is not the end of the world. There are plenty in this world, for
everyone there is a matching partner. God didn’t made us all just to stay
alone.
I tried to tell you all, all the possible
aspects and their outcomes of this mindless modern sexuality. I felt the urge
to make you all aware of this and also to make myself a clear note. See. I am a
human also. I too get confused and when I will become one hell of a confused
soul my words will make me think once again because I am a lonely soul and I
have no one besides me. I am my only friend. And so are you.
But let me tell you something even more, something i saw in Yahoo! Answers couple of days ago. Someone wrote there in a very good language that "You have to keep reminding yourself that: You are in love with this girl now, been dating her "for a year" and want to have sex with her. Say she was ready for it. Right now. You two had sex. A few weeks later, something went wrong, and you two break up. Then your next girlfriend is just as devastated that you've slept with somebody else. And you love this new girl completely, but you LOVED this other girl, and that's why you did it. You can't take it back, and it felt right at the time, you loved her. You would never do it again NOW, now that you love this new girl, and would take it back if you could, just to make it happy, but in a way you feel like you don't want to erase these memories, they were good while they lasted, but now you're happy with someone else and your feelings have changed.
In this way, maybe you can accept this, or catch her in her lie by just leaving her alone until she's ready to tell you. Until then, leave the sex talk alone, and do the things I suggested before diving right into something serious, and the only thing that can result in pregnancy.
Don't marry a virgin, marry the one you love. You don't have to first, but strive to be her best and her last."
But let me tell you something even more, something i saw in Yahoo! Answers couple of days ago. Someone wrote there in a very good language that "You have to keep reminding yourself that: You are in love with this girl now, been dating her "for a year" and want to have sex with her. Say she was ready for it. Right now. You two had sex. A few weeks later, something went wrong, and you two break up. Then your next girlfriend is just as devastated that you've slept with somebody else. And you love this new girl completely, but you LOVED this other girl, and that's why you did it. You can't take it back, and it felt right at the time, you loved her. You would never do it again NOW, now that you love this new girl, and would take it back if you could, just to make it happy, but in a way you feel like you don't want to erase these memories, they were good while they lasted, but now you're happy with someone else and your feelings have changed.
In this way, maybe you can accept this, or catch her in her lie by just leaving her alone until she's ready to tell you. Until then, leave the sex talk alone, and do the things I suggested before diving right into something serious, and the only thing that can result in pregnancy.
Don't marry a virgin, marry the one you love. You don't have to first, but strive to be her best and her last."
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